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Boys will be Girls?

08-18-2013Fr. John LettersFr. John

Dear Friends,

Do these people have their heads screwed on properly?

California Gov. Jerry Brown signed a controversial bill into law Monday afternoon allowing the state's transgender public school students to choose which bathrooms they use and whether they participate in boy or girl sports. The law would cover the state's 6.2 million elementary and high school kids in public schools.

Supporters say the law will help cut down on bullying against transgender students, The families of transgender students have been waging local battles with school districts around the country over what restrooms and locker rooms their children can use. "Now, every transgender student in California will be able to get up in the morning knowing that when they go to school as their authentic self they will have the same fair chance at success as their classmates," Masen Davis, Executive Director of Transgender Law Center said. (Via: Fox News)

How big of a problem is this that the entire state of California has to change its policy for all its schools? Not very big, less than one-half of one percent of students claim gender identity confusion (which is not the same as same-sex attraction). Which means 99.5% of students will have to go along with it or else. Does Gov. Brown not realize this policy change deals with children? Young, emotionally immature children who often pick on the kid who is different? And teens who aside from being less than emotionally stable are also very sexually curious. Young people in general act more on their feelings than their thinking.

The first grade boy who comes to school in a dress is being set up to be teased or at best treated differently or ostracized. I'm not condoning that but just ask any teacher of young children and he or she will tell you that young children haven't yet learned all the lessons of treating others as you would have them treat you. Adults may have the maturity to treat others who are different with compassion and respect but it's a far stretch to expect children to have developed that same ability.

And do they not think that a 16yr old boy with raging hormones won't want to go to the girl's restroom? And what about the girl dressed as a boy who enters the boy's restroom or locker room? How about her safety?

The Governor just handed school administrators another thing to distract them from actually making sure children learn. This is another example of adults imposing their worldview on children regardless of the consequences to children. Its one thing for an adult to make these choices for himself and live with the consequences but it is unfair to impose on children all the negative consequences of living as a different gender. Many adults in our culture will go to any lengths to uphold the assertion that gender is not a given or intrinsic to human beings but merely a social construct. If you are going to push for same-sex behavior to be equal (or better than) opposite sex behavior you have to make the case that gender doesn't matter and in fact gets in the way and must be abolished.

But what about the child who struggles with his or her gender identity? They do deserve our love, attention, and protection. But the way to help them is not to give in to their unwise demands or choices. Jesus says, "what father among you would give his son a stone when he asks for bread or a snake when he asks for fish?" Yet by acquiescing to a child's desire to go to school dressed as the opposite gender is in fact giving your child a stone or a snake. It might make them temporarily happy and solve their parent's problem but it will poison them in the long term and keep them from finding their "authentic self".

Our children are bearing the brunt of a superficial and indiscriminate tolerance that ironically will cause more confusion than it purports to clear up. Maybe it's the adults who need to go back to school and learn the real meaning of the birds and the bees.

Love, Fr. John B.